Mystical Angels

feeling lost in life...... (psychic advice welcome.... )?

i will be 27 yrs old at the end of the month. this past year i got out of an 11 yr relationship w/ the person i thought i was going to marry and have a family w/. he is still my best friend and we still talk and see each other sometimes. i got into a new relationship and fell in love w/ him and he broke up w/ me a few mos ago and i'm finding it very difficult to get over it. i just found out he is seeing s/o new. i am having a hard time keeping up w/ bills and have gotten myself into debt. i've been dating a bit here and there but overall i really miss having s/o special to just be there. i just feel lost right now..... i wonder if things will ever just come together for me..... marriage...... kids..... house.... ? i know that stuff isn't everything but i guess i just wonder if my life will ever feel stable again. i went from feeling safe & secure and like i had everything figured out to not knowing how anything is going to turn out and it's really scary to me. (sandra feb 27/81)

Public Comments

1. Unrelated, but we have the same birthday, Feb 27 :-).
2. you still have a lot of time left to think about kids so don't sweat that. it would be a good idea for you to stop dating altogether for a little while and get your life in order. you should feel stable without a man first and then add that to the mix. you will feel better more attractive and less lost.
3. Write a lot about your feelings. Try to develop female friends. For debt problems, talk to a non-profit Credit Counseling agency, or seek help with Debtors Anonymous. The latter might help with the emotional stuff too. If you have health insurance, try seeing a therapist, or if you don't try something through church or a local women's center or something?? Know that you will work through what you are going through and it will pass.
4. My suggestion, go to a public setting where you can hang out with all sorts of people or hang out with a friend at a club maby. The social setting will put you on a positive note. By being active you never know what your life will bring in front of you.
5. I know how lost you feel. Money, Relationships, Health Issues, what ever... know this... You can always do better. ALWAYS! If you just do little things over and over again for a long time... they add up. In Debt? It's not personal. You are more than that. Realize it will take time (sometimes a few years), don't charge any more, and pay it off. Use the snowball system. Relationships? Realize that the person you really want to be with really wants to be with you, but they are looking for you just as hard as you are looking for them. Do not give up, Never give up, and do not settle for someone who you really know isn't right for you just because you are lonely. It is stupid and it is cruel. It's not fair to you, and is sure as hell isn't fair to the person you settle for. I once was where you are now. I have gone from being $125,000 in debt to only $25,000. And my last real girlfriend told me she never really loved me she just wanted a house. So far I have not met Miss Mystery, but I know she is out there. And I know I will be financially independent and debt free in the next 3 years. Also I know that Miss Mystery is looking for me only as much as I look for her... so I get what I deserve.
6. ...what i see, is you dumping all the excess baggage and going for it on your own...clear your bills, men will come and go, make your self powerful and in control, by not listening to the promises of men who have taken advantage of you and your caring heart...and all will be...sorry, dont see a family... any time soon... ...enjoy!