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Telugu girl, Marathi guy in love since 3 years, But Horoscopes not matching, parents say no Marriage?

I am sure he loves me a lot and cannot stay wothout me..but his parents say since our horoscopes are not matching..we should break off and stop thinking abt marriage.My parents are ok with our relationship...He is the only child in the family so is very much attached to them...Hence dont want to do register marriage without their permission..And I am sure they will not agree..I have already been waiting since last 1 year....What should I do? Leave him because he is not strong enuf in his love decision or give him some time..Help me..please..I love him a lot ..dont want to go away from him :( We both are 25 working in Software Industry

Public Comments

1. First of all you are "sure he loves" you or do you know for a fact? Has he declared his love for you and showed you that he loves you? Another thing - how old are you two? A real man will not listen to other people when he wants something. If he truly loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you he will not allow an obstacles to get in the way. There are many many fish in the sea so if you do not see a future in this relationship don't waste anymore of your time on him, move on to bigger and better things. btw, let me guess you guys are Indian or some other middle easterners, you all let your parents run your lives too much. They raised you for 18 yrs, you are an adult now so make your decisions in life. It's nice to get advice but to let parents determine your destiny is just wrong and unfair. You only have one life so live it on your own terms it will feel so much better that way. EDIT: Well if you both are 25 then you should be able to be with each other without anyone's approval. Of course it's not the best idea to be on bad terms with your families but you should sit down with your boyfriend and his parents and explain how you love each other and want to marry. See what their reasons are for not wanting that - logical reasons not having to do with your silly horoscopes. As a matter of fact Reggie, I am Iranian and I had to deal with opposition, my parents tried to run my life but I let them know that I am not going to put MY destiny in their hands. If I make wrong choices then so be it, I will face the consequences then! And btw, Reggie is advising you to do the SAME thing I am advising you to do so how am I ignorant.
2. If he loves you, the horoscopes and his family's opinions should not matter to him. He needs to be aware of his objections and stand up for himself as well. If he doesn't do these things, imagine how it will be when you are married and they are interfering with everything in your lives. Do you want that? No. You need to let him know that you will expect him to make his decision soon, whether he will stand up to them or whether he will do as they say. He can't keep you hanging on like this! If he will only do as they say, you don't need a man like that! You want a man who can think for himself, no matter how you think you feel about him now. You won't respect him when you're older. Trust me. I know these are trying times for you but you must have patience! Love conquers all.
3. Go ahead, and marry the person you love, horoscope will match after you married that person you love, BUT be care full is that person is worthy of to be your husband and able to take care of you, you are in love now, but after marriage will you be able to withstands the difficulties witch comes, it needs parents support
4. This is a tough situation. I know because I'm from India, too (Kerala). The person who answered that you're letting your parents control you too much doesn't know jack about other cultures...she only knows about her own. And that's ignorant. There is no reason to follow what horoscopes have to say about anything...it's not science. But you seem like you're from a family that believes in it, so there's no use arguing that point. There is one decision you have to make. Are you two in love enough that you want to marry each other regardless of what your parents have to say? If so, do it. Let me tell you right now that if he's hesitating because of his parents, then if you do get married, his parents will intervene in all aspects of your life. Both of you must be strong for this to work. If not, it won't work. Both of you (not just you) must be able to stand up to both sets of parents and say "We love each other. Deal with it." Not easy for Indian kids to say, I know, but there is no other way if you want to be with him. The other option is to walk away now and forget it. Your heart will hurt for a while, but will heal when you meet someone else.
5. u say u've been waiting for his reply for 1 year? that's way too long. its understood u don't want to leave him but the thought has crossed ur mind, hasn't it? but u can't keep your life on hold for 1 person. horoscopes don't matter in today's world. give him an ultimatum. tell him u r giving him like ,maybe, a month's time to make up his mind. take it or leave it. if he loves u enough he'll marry u.