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Trapped In Love, =( Feeling Worthless (Advice PLEASE!)?

I'm early 20s and a confident person (when im out). Iv been on & off & on & off with a guy fr almost 5 years.Hes my first love n weve been thru so many things,2 yrs ago we wer goin through a rough patch & i cheated on him.it took a yr 2get over it but we got back.Since then things havnt been the same but durin tht yr appart i realised i cudn't live with the idea of life without him.He has admitted not trusting me still (2yrs later) &we ave nothin in common.im findin more &more faults in our relationship, but dont want to call the end.i dont blive im strong enough 2try get over him again (i tried lovin sum1 else during the yr break up).This isn't usually the attitude i ave with life, but i fear i wont find any better as a fortune teller told me i ave found the One & it will b very difficult 2find another.I feel empty &he has bcome agressive (verbally).he doesnt like me havin male friends and wants me 2 stop seein them.he is a stubborn guy who duznt share emotions, he wont change! =(

Public Comments

1. walk away, your staying with this guy coz he is safe. you don't love him walk away
2. He won't change. He sounds like an abusive boyfriend, the overprotectiveness, the verbal abuse...all signs. You should trust your instincts, not the fortune teller. You know you best. Plus, she could've meant one of your new male friends! Yah never know. You deserve someone better, you WILL find someone better, who makes you feel genuinely happy without all this feeling of guilt and confusion. You deserve someone who can trust you and who you feel comfortable being with.
3. The odds are it wont get any better unfortunatley, usually when someone cheats, or after many break ups the relationship goes down hill, personally I dont think relationships can work without any trust. its best to end it, althought it will be hard as you have been together a long time, good luck
4. ok, im a bloke so basically this is my perspective: 1) grow some balls. being single isnt bad - its good. a chance to find someone who WILL trust you. (i dont blame him for not trusting you... thats natural, and irriparable..) 2) theres like 4billion other guys on the planet - your wasting your time! 3) your obviously not happy - give yourslef a chance to find someone exciting, mature, and new that will give you that buzz again 4) your REALLY insecure. so do yourself a favour and stop telling yourself your worthless. tell yourself your fantastic, and a great catch. get some cool hobbies, go out with your friends and have fun. if you have fun, youl look happy, smile, look confident and guys like that. no body wants a misserable low-opinion-of-yourself constantly down gal... 5) guys wont change. move on and find someone better. 4billion to pick from. come on already mate.
5. #### GET OUT BEFORE HE TURNS YOU INTO A MENTAL CABBAGE ##### he has admitted that he doesn`t TRUST YOU, he doesn`t like you having male friend`s, WAKE UP GIRL ......... you have also said that you keep picking faults with this relationship,nothing in common, and you stay with this MORON BECAUSE SOME FORTUNE TELLER TOLD you that you have found the ONE..... NO HE HAS YOU THE " PERFECT IDIOT "...... sorry if my answer is BLUNT but that`s how i see it... your not trapped by him you have convinced yourself that you cannot live without him, if you stay then you deserve everything that happens to you,
6. never settle for second best in love .it shows you are weak minded &you would never respect him or yourself. as for fortune tellers ,if they could tell the future would,nt they be living it up high somewhere .
7. your not worth answering! you dont deserve trust & will probably never find love again without it! you reap what you sow & the fruits of your actions are being borne. i know this cos my girl cheated on me & begged me time & time again to take her back.......no way! cheat once you will do it again. she's now on drugs & being used by all the lowlife scum in the neighbourhood, finally found her place in life!
8. well my friends in the same situation but shes got 2 kids with her boyfriend and has been with him for over 6 years. she talks to me about him and have been there a few times when they've had arguments and its not nice for her kids.but she doesn't realise. she comes to me for help and i can only do so much.she keeps saying his faults and all i can say is that if theres no love then its not gonna work has you'll just start picking more faults with the relationship and eventually it will end but in a nasty way and you don't really want that.
9. I just had to answer this as it felt as though I was reading my own life story!! I went through the same when I was about 19 we had a really bad patch where I cheated (I realise now that it should have ended then, we didn't split til I was 23!). He never trusted me after that and emotionally abused me for the rest of our years together. However, and I hate to sound big headed, but I am a much more attractive person than him with a good personality and a lot of friends, and he didn't like this which caused him to put me down, try and control me stop me going out with my friends and even control what I spent! The last year has been the most miserable of my life because, like your guy, he wouldnt talk about anything and wouldn't change his ways for the sake of our relationship. In the end he found someone else and walked away from our 8 year relationship, leaving me feel even more worthless and abused. However, I've never felt so happy, even though splitting up our house and selling it is a complete nightmare. My friends are all there for me and the fact that I knew it was so wrong has made it very easy for me to begin getting over our relationship. Don't take notice of the fortune teller, you have to do what feels right for you. It's better to be alone and be able to live life as you please than to be stuck with someone who you dont love and who will slowly start to resent you, and you him. I promise it will feel like sh it in the beginning but you'll get there. Don't stay, get out before you have any more ties to this guy. xxx