Is it worth risking my friendship for this?
When my ex friends moved to a private school after being accepted with a grant, I was forced to make new friends. I did make friends with one girl, and I'm not one to be bothered by the whole "status" thing but she was really unpopular, and was often described as "crazy". Being an "average" person, I thought she was ok, and hung around with her because she wasn't bad and I didn't think I'd be able to make friends with anyone else as everyone else has their own "cliques" already. (I'm 16). Recently, I've been talking to a girl in my GCSE Art class, and it's not that she's popular I like her, but she's really nice, we have loads in common, and she suggested I hang around with them because she thinks I'd fit in well. She told me I could do better than my current friend, and although my current friend is ok, but she's too immature, and I'd love to hang around withe this new girl and her friends, to see if she's right. I read my horoscope today http://msn.live-astro.com/horoscopes_astrology/horoscopes.php?type=daily&sign=sag and think it's so true, as I have heard others saying what the h*ll is she doing with a friend like that. I don't want to be a b*tch, but should I try hanging around with this new girl?
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- if there is any friendship then its the true and colorful one between two friends if there is none like this..than there never was...
- You don't have to hang around just one group of people, you can have a bunch of friends from different 'cliques'.
- i would hang out with this new girl
- Try hanging out with the new girl, yeah. But don't block off your first friend completely, that's kind of rude and maybe her company will be fun to have around every now and then.
- There is a problem with the new girl. She told you that you could "do better" than your current friend and suggested that you abandon her. That's pretty snobby. Why can't you have both friends at the same time. Why do you have to reject and abandon this person, who, until a few days ago, was good enough for you. Well, you might as well do it because you want to. I'm just saying that the new girl isn't that great.
- Yes ... it's worth it. Nothing wrong with expanding your friend circle. If you're a better "fit" with this new group, then you shouldn't feel bad about being a part of it. If the first friend can't handle that, then it's probably not that great of a friendship anyway. But, she'll (hopefully) understand. Don't limit yourself.
- hang with the girl that asked you to. Even though the whole "status" thing like you said shouldn't matter but you are who you hang out with, remember that. I hung out with a bitch throughout middle school she was nothing but a two face and talked shit about pretty much everyone. People judged me and thought I was like her because I hung out with her and it took me down the wrong road. I wouldn't want you to go down that wrong road as well.
- I would go with the new girl.. it wouldn't be being a b*tch it's just a choice. please answer mine... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Av2jD.lGFWKUJrYTf1i_fJrsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20081127091158AAjRski
- Well, you should try and hang out with both of them for a bit, then see who you get on with better, or who you feel you can trust. Your current friend might feel rejected if she hasn't got any more friends, and if things don't workout with this other girl, then will your old friend accept you back. I think it might be worth the risk if you are unhappy with your current friendship. Life is short. Hope i helped xxx
- If your ex friends are really your friend, they will understand it. So i think it worth the risk. Give this new girl a chance, don't go for what other people are saying or will said about your friendship. If you feel good about it, go for it.
- Its kind of disturbing, if she's a good person then keep her as a friend... you're not actually being a good friend by thinking you'll have to cut off one friendship to start off another on. And you ARE allowed to have more than one friend, OK hang out with the 'clique' but you can give some of your time for your other friend. Oh and stay away from horoscopes. They seriously harm people's lives.
- Definitely hang out withe the new gal. I mean like you said you guys have plenty in common and she thinks you will fit into her clique. The fact that you like her cos of her and not just cos shes popular, mean something. Plus, has it also occurred to you that if you turn down her offer and snub her there will be consequences. Although of cos I am not saying to abandon your old friend. You should also continue the friendship and keep being friends with her, else its also not fair on the poor gal. She should understand that you cant only have her, and have to have other friends as well. So I say make new friends with the new gal and her clique, but at the same time still maintain the friendship with your old friend. Keep it all impartial and balanced tho, as these "situations" can very easily turn ugly
- Hang out with whoever you want to hang out with. You sound like your intentions aren't to hurt the girl, so it can't hurt. Doesn't mean you neccesarily have to stop being FRIENDS with the "weird" girl.
- No........................ I don't think you should be friends with the one in your art class. If you have a friend then don't bail on her! My advice is that girl that you're hanging with, stay with her. Even people tease you with your current friend, just ignore them. So what if you have loads in common with the one in your art class.There are a lot of popular kids in my school and I'm not good friends with them! But if you want you can hang with both of them and see who you want to be friends with or you can be friends with both of them.
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