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I am a gay man and I'm feeling stressed becasue of my homophobic parents. Help, please ?

I am 22-year-old gay man. I know I am gay since I am 6. I have come out to everyone except my parents are relatives. I have been studying in Australia for several years . Now my university semester has finished and I go back to Hong Kong (my hometown ). Recently my parents suspect I am gay. Everyday, they say a lot of words ( e.g. f*gg*t, loser,manwh0re, j*rk) when they say they suspect I am gay. " Why can't you be heterosexual ? All your cousins are heterosexual . Why can't you turn yourself into a straight man ? Where did you learn to be a gay man? In Australia ? Do people in Australia turn you gay ? " I answered. They say "Homosexuality is a disese. You need to cure it if you are really gay." I always reply " Homosexuality is not a disease " . However, my parents never listen to me and throw things at me every day ( when they are angry that I may be a gay man ) They say " Parents only offer their love to children if children promise that they'll be heterosexual in their whole life" My parents say " If you are really gay, you shouldn't go back to Australia to study after holiday. It will only make you even more gay" They say " We'll ask our fortune teller if you will be turned straight again in Australia. If he says yes, you can go. Otherwise, you must not go. Fortune teller can determine or change your sexuality Remember we sponsor you some of your school fees " They said " You gay boy have no right to go back to Australia without the permission of our fortune teller " They say all my life achievement will become zero once I confirm I am gay in front of them. They say"We invest lots of money to bring up you but now you may be a gay man. What a shame and disgrace to us and everyone.You shoul drop from school now and stay in Hong Kong.Edcuation is only for heterosexual people and what gay people can do is to find jobs" They keep on saying those things to me everyday. I feel depressed when they say I am worse than a piece of sh*t because of my gayness. Recently I've found that I am more vulnerable to cold/ flu than before. I don't know why. I've got more headache than before as well Q.1) HOW DO YOU THINK OF MY PARENTS ? DO YOU MENTALLY SUPPORT ME TO GO BACK TO AUSTRALIA AND CONTINUE MY STUDIES( I try to support myself financially in Australia ) ? Q.2) Do you think I'll be less competitve in the society if I discontiune my university studies at this stage( and find a full-time job instead) ? Q.3) I will confirm my gayness in front of my parents once I am financially independent.Do you mentally support me ? I miss my gay-friendly buddies in Australia. Unlike my parents, they are always on my side . They give me lots of emotional support

Public Comments

1. Your parents are wackos you should go back to aus and never talk to them again untill they accept you for who you are
2. 1. They are ignorant. Tell them you are straight. Finish your education, support yourself and who gives a crap what they think. 2. Yes, you need to have a degree to prove you went to university. Degrees get you into higher paying jobs. 3. Yes, tell them once you are done. If I was in your position, I'd be straight for them and finish school. It's not selling out, if its the only way to continue in your life, you must. Once you are in Australia, you are free to be as gay as you want!
3. 1) I am not gay myself but I am very sorry to hear what they are saying to you. Yes, you should go back to Australia and continue your studies no matter what your orientation. It does not matter if you are gay, you are still a beautiful, intelligent person! You are also very brave for enduring your parents harsh words. Go back to Australia as soon as possible because if they are causing you to be depressed you are susceptible to the flu/cold. Once you are back in Australia you will feel much better. The climate is better there, too. 2) Continue your university studies and do what you want in life. It would be a waste if you stopped! Don't let all that hard work go down the drain. 3) Yes, you should come out to your parents once you are financially independent. They should love you for who you are. You are still their son no matter what happens. Black Tara J is an ignorant human being. I do not wish harm unto her but I do so wish that she was more informed about gays. Please do not listen to what she says.
4. Your parents are RIGHT! Listen 2 them!
5. And ignore Tara J shes a damn loser. Im a christian but I believe we all deserve to be happy even though thats what the bible says God gave us free will, plus there were gay people in the bible so...just do your best and come to then with an open heart and ask them to do the same. But also be ready to accept the fact that they might not accept you. Good luck babe!
6. You're 22 years old, legally you are an adult and can go wherever you want to go and to be whoever you want to be, gay or straight. However, if you still want and need your parents' financial support, it is only fair not to upset your parents. Think from your parents' perspectives, they probably hope that they will have grandsons to carry the blood line. It is hard for them to accept that their son is not "normal" (like others' sons). There is still a debate whether gay can be cured or not. Dr. Robert L. Spitzer, the psychiatrist at Columbia Univ. who instrumentally removed homosexuality from the psychiatric manual of mental disorders in 1973, now believe that homosexuality can be cured.
7. Move back to Australia and embrace your new GAY family! (as soon as possible) Auntie Kookoo