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my wife of many years is really getting into religion, talking in tongues, healing, spending 3 nights a week?

at prayer groups or Bible study, plus most of Sunday at church. they meet at our house, have prayer chain letters circulating, mostly with women or a husband of a woman or two will go along. I have taken up going to mineral and gem clubs the nights she is gone and most of Saturdays. and cut rocks and make jewelry. She is going deeper into the spiritual world and saying God is telling her to do or say this or that to certain people. I feel she is losing her balance with life. I am not religious and only love her for who she is. I don't care about these beliefs. I don't make any big deal about all of it. Lately, things are getting strained and she raises her hands to God and prays aloud when I disagree with her as though that will help me agree with her Will this ever reach a conclusion and we can enjoy ourselves as we once did?? why run for the divorce ? several have mentioned divorce, wouldn't that be against her religious beliefs? But the 10 yr mark is coming next year and that means the judge would handle it differently and award her spousal support along with half of my pension, social security, The Bible says, "wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord." But "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." I'll try this one

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1. Get a divorce.
2. Probably not. Once they fall into this behavior it is very difficult to pull them out. She is willing to allow her marriage to be destroyed and replace it with "God". Sorry to hear this. This is why religion is so insidious.
3. Your life with her won't be the same until she either gives up her religious beliefs or tones them down. With or without these beliefs, a wife should not neglect her husband like she sounds like she is, and the bible supports this. If you have any Christian friends talk to them about it and come up with something to say to her about that, an 'argument' if you will, that is based on scriptures. If she is that into religion she won't forsake them.
4. Obviously her brain has been completely rotted by religion. Time to trade her in.
5. She is getting dangerously detached from reality Have a serious talk with her and set up some boundaries because, if you let it go, it will get only worse, since she is supported by fellow members and you, as ONE person won't be able to get her back to some semblance of reality, if you don't act fast and firm of She does NOT act normally..get some counseling or this is heading towards divorce soon
6. You wife has been victimized by a fundamentalist sect. You say you don't care, but you certainly should care. Religion is a necessary part of life, but it must be based upon reason and free will. Your wife's so-called religion is based on neither. These kinds of sects have misguided philosophies, and no doctrine whatsoever. They also use pressure tactics to convert. You should be concerned because things will only get worse. She will soon become obsessed with a desire for you to "get saved". It is noble of your wife to reach out to God, but she's done it in the wrong way. I would suggest you educate yourself thoroughly in Catholic doctrine, so that you can both honor her desire for spirituality, plus guide her to a more reasonable, healthy relationship with God, and with you.
7. Responding specifically to this: *Lately, things are getting strained and she raises her hands to God and prays aloud when I disagree with her as though that will help me agree with her* What exactly did you disagree upon? The Bible says, "wives, submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord." But "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." I don't agree with her response, invoking prayer to make you listen.
8. Meh. Sounds kinda crazy. Is that a cult or something she's into? I think I'd let her do what she thinks she needs to, and just stay real myself. Personally, I couldn't live with it, but I'm not her husband, either.
9. I don't mean to dig deeper here, but is she a Jehovah's Witness? I ask this because I've been noticing more and more of them becoming more spiritual and God worshiping more than usual lately, due to the "coming of God's kingdom" rather shortly. I've also noticed some Christian sects doing this as well. Now here's my input in regards to the wife. One potential thing to do is start going out with her more, get her away from those Bible Clubs and go to a dance club, out to dinner, antique shows... what have you. Get her mind away from the Bible Clubs and back into the relationship. I'm not saying take her away from her faith, that would only create a lot of drama in the house, but just get her away from the Bible Club every so often and get her to focus on you. Occasionally, you need to make it about you to be noticed more.
10. I agree with the first answer anyone doing this is a total moron! They heard the Muslims praying and tried to mimic it. Horrible job! you have all been lied to. John 12:44 Then Jesus cried out and said, “He who believes in Me, believes not in Me but in Him who sent Me. ARE YOU ALL THAT BLIND!!!!!????
11. It's really hard to say. What you describe sounds fairly normal to me, but clearly you know her and may have an intuition that this is not like her in some ways. My wife and her mother (when she was alive) clearly do have mental health problems which manifest themselves as religious belief. In a church, people frequently do distinguish between mental illness and spirituality, a distinction which seems invisible to some people from outside. My wife has insight into her issues and deals with them by having fellowship with other Christians. It might depend on the size and type of church. A small church might be dominated by particular personalities and form a sort of collective madness, but a larger one may be less like that because the influence of many people can provide a kind of reality check. Are you talking about a cell church or house church movement or something wider? If the latter, i would suggest that you speak privately with one of the leaders, who probably have experience with this sort of thing and will behave professionally.