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Indian Matrimonial Sites - benefits of paid service and authenticity of Candidate's profile?

Hi, I recently turned 30 year old couple of days ago. I am gujarati jain and got married when I was 27 and my marriage lasted for 4 months due to impotency of husband and mental torture by inlaws. I recently got legally divorced and so now I want to register with matrimonial website. But I want to know and have few questions as follows: 1) What is the difference between free service and paid service? 2) What are the advantages and benefits of paid service and what are the disadvantages of free service? 3) What is the authenticity of the candidate's profile and information in it. I mean can the profile be fake or information given by the candidate about his qualification and income can be fake? 4) What steps I should take to not to be fooled by someone. Should I shamelessly ask the desired candidate to show me his address proof, income proof, his marksheets and certificates, his legal docs of divorce and can I fearlessly and shamelessly ask him to get the required blood tests like HIV positive and thelesemia minor, etc. If I ask for above then will the candidate feel offended. Because in Indian culture people are more prone to see horoscope rather than all this and guys may even get offended even if we ask their income. Strange culture. 5) One more question I have is that most of those guys who are of older age like 35 + but if they are never married then they only prefer never married girls and don't prefer divorcee girl, why? 6) I am very insecure and very stressed out. My father is dead. My mother and my aunts uncles do not have much contacts to find right alliance or match for me. Now the only way for me is to register with such matrimonial website and register with some local marriage beaureo, I haven't start the procedure but am planning to start process of finding a match. But the profiles as per my crieteria is very limited. Will I be able to find a right match out of it? What if I don't find any guy right or if I find any desired candidate then what if he rejects me? Will I be left alone throughout the whole life? I am very insecure that what if I will be left virgin and unmarried throughout the whole life. I am not bad looking but not good looking either, I am M.com and working. What if I will not able to find any guy for marriage. I already have minus point like my divorce, I have turned 30 and weak background due to loss of father. I am also not in contact with any guy to fall in love, to date or to become a girlfriend of someone. I feel like a complete loser. I am very much scared I will have to spend my life alone. I anyhow want to get married I dont want to stay unmarried. WILL THESE MATRIMONIAL PORTALS OR LOCAL MARRIAGE BEAUREO HELP ME FIND A RIGHT MATCH? Please help me people, if you have any more unique suggestion for me then you are most welcome, I will be grateful. Unfortunately due to impotency of my ex-husband I stayed virgin and before marriage I never had boyfriend due to my shyness. I am feeling disgusted. Please help me out. Sorry for this long but please help me and reply to my question. Pleeeeeeeeeeeease!!!!!

Public Comments

1. Please note. There is no difference between paid service and unpaid . only the payment differs. 2.In both the service the family of the groom and bride are brought nearer. 3.Only due enquiry will make it success. 4.. There will be Reference, they will give give reference persons. You can ask them about the groom/bride and get satisfied, No doubt you can ask the proofs, [But the culture does not permit, only but only faith, this some times leads otherwise] 5.May be true and may be false. generally the low aged persons would have married in relations and in friends side. As they have not done their marriage on various family grounds they come to matrimony site.So there is no wrong in it. 6. your situation is pathetic, but you will find your partner soon, but have thorough enquiry and take the decision. Best wishes.