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I am scared - Will I stay virgin and unmarried girl throughout my whole life - I don't want to Please Help me?

Hi, I turned 30 couple of days ago but still virgin. I am an Indian, from gujarati jain community and I got married 2.5 years ago when I was 27 but my marriage only lasted for 4 months due to impotency of husband and mental torture by in-laws. I recently got legally divorced and so now I want to register with matrimonial website. But I want to know and have few questions as follows: 1) What is the difference between free service and paid service? 2) What are the advantages and benefits of paid service and what are the disadvantages of free service? 3) What is the authenticity of the candidate's profile and information in it. I mean can the profile be fake or information given by the candidate about his qualification and income can be fake? 4) What steps I should take to not to be fooled by someone. Should I shamelessly ask the desired candidate to show me his address proof, income proof, his marksheets and certificates, his legal docs of divorce and can I fearlessly and shamelessly ask him to get the required blood tests like HIV positive and thelesemia minor, etc. If I ask for above then will the candidate feel offended. Because in Indian culture people are more prone to see horoscope rather than all this and guys may even get offended even if we ask their income. Strange culture. 5) One more question I have is that most of those guys who are of older age like 35 + but if they are never married then they only prefer never married girls and don't prefer divorcee girl, why? 6) I am very insecure and very stressed out. My father is dead. My mother and my aunts uncles do not have much contacts to find right alliance or match for me. Now the only way for me is to register with such matrimonial website and register with some local marriage beaureo, I haven't start the procedure but am planning to start process of finding a match. But the profiles as per my crieteria is very limited. Will I be able to find a right match out of it? What if I don't find any guy right or if I find any desired candidate then what if he rejects me? Will I be left alone throughout the whole life? I am very insecure that what if I will be left virgin and unmarried throughout the whole life. I am not bad looking but not good looking either, I am M.com and working. What if I will not able to find any guy for marriage. I already have minus point like my divorce, I have turned 30 and weak background due to loss of father. I am also not in contact with any guy to fall in love, to date or to become a girlfriend of someone. I feel like a complete loser. I am very much scared I will have to spend my life alone. I anyhow want to get married I dont want to stay unmarried. WILL THESE MATRIMONIAL PORTALS OR LOCAL MARRIAGE BEAUREO HELP ME FIND A RIGHT MATCH? Please help me people, if you have any more unique suggestion for me then you are most welcome, I will be grateful. Unfortunately due to impotency of my ex-husband I stayed virgin and before marriage I never had boyfriend due to my shyness. I am feeling disgusted. Please help me out. Sorry for this long but please help me and reply to my question. Pleeeeeeeeeeeease!!!!! Thanks all those who replied but I expect more replies. @ Dude. Thanks Dude for replying me and telling me your comforting words. But to enlighten you it is a Indian Culture. In Indian Culture you can't find easily to date someone. I am not having much friend and don't have any source to get in touch with people. I am working but there even I can't get in touch with some eligible bachelor. Indian culture is very typical and people here are very conservative and traditional. Most of the guys of my age are already married. I am also not physicall too attractive that some ask me for a date. I am however not bad looking either. I can understand what you say we have to fall in love but dear we also need to get someone to love. So in life sometimes we have to be practical and think of getting settled in life and hence arranged marriage becomes necessary. In Indian culture getting settled means getting married and have children. If I will not able to find someone to get married then who will

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1. Ok, erm, not sure what to make of all these questions, im only from little old england and still young sooo.. yeah , sorry cant asnwer those. But, as for the main question. No you wont xD It just takes longer for some people than others! calm down, just maybe go a bit further with a few guys, dont actually have to do anything but you may be unintionally ending any chance of a relationship before its started by feeling this way. My sugestion is chill.. it'll happen one day, just wait for Mr right.
2. firstly i am a girl. ulike my name says i only have one thing to say to you. plz stop thinking of this as a point system. the point of life is not to get married and lose ur verginity. its to fall in love and then proceed from there. stop with all the match and cantidates. Why would you want to marry someone who you haven't fallen in love with? Is that really how you want to live your life? Im white so my mentallity might be completly diff then yours but you have to go out in the world and meet guys. its gonna be weired at frist but this is the only way. Please dont get married becuase u feel u have to. wait for the right guy. he's out the and u will not be alone. just hope for the best. I really feel saddened by the way you're thinking about this. You marry someone because you love them and nothing else. Can you please enlighten me? Im sorry if i'm seeming offensive. im not trying to be but i have never seen this before. Youre spitting all over yourself and putting yourself down. Some guy will be really lucky to have you. PLZ dont get married unless you're in love.
3. just go out roam in towns and cities looking for guys of the type u want and surely u will find someone of ur choice. Best of luck
4. We have the top 3 matrimonial websites..like shaadi.com, Bharatmarimony.com, jeevansathi.com. Register in one of the websites...They also provide the candidates for divorced n all that.I believe there would be the candidates only with genuine details on these websites, so register soon, get a good guy n get married, good luck!!
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6. hey dear, i would suggest u to not go for matrimonial websites, as i have experience of that, that can help upto some extent for marriage, they probably do some tricks to make u premium customer, and after the expiry they do some sort of tricks as sending the message from the one u r intersted in, so that u can again join the premium service. so i would suggest u to go for some local matrimonial people what make matches. that will be a good option. reg the matrimonial websites the free service offer to enrol yourself in their website, and u cannot able to contact ur intersted person, only the person who is paid service can contact u. communication will be from the paid customers only, and you will not b able to keep ur contaact information in it. how ever teh paid customer can keep thier contact details and contact no's in it. and can initiate the communication, and also a paid customer can be able to chat the other paid customer if he is online. where as the free customer cant. regarding ur lonelyness, i dont think there is any problem as u r an educated and working women, u will find the match easily now a days, regarding the authancity of the profiles, most of them who mentioned serious relationship and complete details will be authentic and a very few will be fake, which someone elderly of ur family can visit them and know about their authenticity, that's why i suggested u to go for a local match maker so that u will find the local alliances, which will be easier to know about their details, as it is within the reach of ur family.and for the authencity of the person, now a days there r some detective agencies who will get u all information of the person for some fees, but dont know whether the place u r leaving in does have such facility or not. being a women it is really difficult, i can understand ur problem, it is better to be open with ur family and ask them to look for ur 2nd marriage, leaving behind the shyness, rather than taking the wrong steps and making the life hell, by illegal affairs. so dont shy in asking ur family for ur marriage. i would infact suggest u to look for divorcee rather than unmarried, as it is difficult to find unmarried guys. it doesnt make any difference with divorcee or unmarried. i wish u best of luck
7. Hey u can get in touch with me my id is raj_00_2001@yahoo.com i m also single 32 years virgin looking for a good girl i have graduated in commerce from mumbai university in 2003 currently working in mumbai in pets food and pets articles industries